There are many misconceptions regarding attitude and strategy between the sexes. This is one of the main reasons why communication in the relationship often goes wrong.
Therefore, it is important to know the relationship’s “traffic rules” in order to succeed.
Both in the relationship believe that the partner LIES, but is not the case.
At the very least, they do not even think they are lying when they say something in the best sense. Don’t you feel that way yourself? Do you not have the best intentions?
However, your partner may have a completely different opinion than you.
Often the problems are rooted in misunderstandings and lack of knowledge about principles and fundamental differences between the sexes. So more between the masculine in all of us who want to embellish the truth and the feminine who is in the emotions.
Men (the masculine) and women (the feminine) act on their own terms, without being aware that the partner has a different perception, rule-set, value-set or experience-set.
What I am describing in this article is not really lying, but just different ways of perceiving things. Different strategies.
What does a man do if he needs a little distance? In Danish: “når en mand har brug for afstand“.
In my eyes, it is about understanding the partner, just as we ourselves want to be understood. Not to change each other, but to know that what the partner is doing is not meant badly, but maybe just an (inappropriate) strategy.
Which of course is not the same as directly lying about things you want to hide from your partner.
I know that the world has been taught to know the importance of being honest, “for your own good”, and being careful not to “cheat”, but most of the time it is about the lies.
The most harmful lies do not involve matters of fact or of fact-related things like who hit who, who threw the glass of water or who wet the bed. It also does not involve “things” of fact, but things of fact-related things such as who told the secret or who “made” the phone call.
The most harmful lies do not have to do with the facts, but in a “truth” such as the following: “It was me who wanted to come home, I was tired, I did not want to go home and fight, I just wanted to be with my wife.” Or “It was I who wanted to go back to my apartment, I was just tired, I did not know how to find a replacement. “
A lot of people try to avoid the truth in the “truth” that they try to create; it can be very dangerous. Do not create lies and try to stop a partner from telling the truth, but even create the truth. Sometimes they create it for your advantage, to allow you to know who you do not like, to allow you to know who you cannot live with, to allow you to see who is more of a problem. It is a huge problem that you cannot live with, but it has a huge advantage for you; you do not know who it is, but you do know what you are facing.
The main issue with lies is that they may be the most harmful and dangerous lies that are more of a danger to your self-esteem than anything else. If the truth hurts, and lies can cause the truth to be known and felt through lies and not the truth, then lies will be a disaster, a catastrophe. This is why the truth is more powerful, if you are caught in a lie, then the truth can end your life.
It is very important to learn the truth and to reveal the truth when your partner asks you about it, because it is important for you to know what you have created, to know the truth about yourself. And it is important that you do not create the truth for your partner to catch you. Creating it for your partner to catch you is a big lie, because your partner cannot catch you when you are caught in a lie. You can only catch yourself creating it.
If you are caught in a lie then your partner can catch you with the truth, the truth is known and felt, it is real, it is the truth. The truth about you is what you tell others about yourself, which they will never deny, they will never make you feel guilty about, or ashamed about. For if they could, then you would not be complete.
Lies are not your partner’s finest hour. Lies are the lowest of the low, they are the lies that you tell your partner to take him or her down, to break him or her up. Lies are lies, they are an attempt to escape or an attempt to not face your own issues, to hide behind words, to put him or her down, to blame him or her to blame you for, to hurt him or her, to hurt your self-esteem. Lies are all lies, any lie that puts you at odds with yourself is wrong, it does not matter who did it. The lies are bad, they are the lowest of the low.
Lies are destructive of relationships, they create distance between you and your partner, they create distance between you and yourself, they separate you from yourself, they divide you.
The low lies are really just attempts to destroy your relationship, lies, that you tell, are really attempts to cause him or her to distance themselves from you, lies, that you tell, to hurt him or her, to cause him or her to feel guilty, to cause her or him to feel guilty, to try to create distance between you, to try to create distance between you and yourself, to try to destroy your identity. And finally they are attempts to destroy your self-esteem.
Lies, that you tell yourself, are not lies, they are not really lies, you will not think them true, you will not believe them to be true, you will not feel them to be true, you will not experience them to be true, but you will believe them to be true, and you will experience them to be true, as long as you act upon them. Lies, that you tell yourself, are not really lies, they are not really harmful, they do not destroy relationships, they do not divide you, they do not cause him or her to feel guilty, they do not cause you to feel guilty, but they cause you to experience a sense of guilt, just for doing what you wanted to do.
The lies, that you tell yourself, are not really lies, they are just a way of evading facing your own issues, facing your own pain, facing your own pain, being honest, being vulnerable, being vulnerable with your partner, being vulnerable with your partner and with yourself.
The lies are not really lies, they are just a way of protecting yourself from your own fears, fears of failure, fears of shame, fears of isolation, fears of intimacy, fears of being true, of being real, of being vulnerable, of being vulnerable with your partner, of being vulnerable with your partner and of being vulnerable with yourself.
In order to protect yourself from these issues, from these pains and from your own pain, you tell yourself the lies. They keep you safe in your bubble of security, they protect you from the very real feelings, the very real experiences that surround you every day. Lies keep you safe in your lie of being free of these issues, of these pains and of your own pain. Lies keep you alive in your lie that you are not really sorry, that you are not really vulnerable, that you are not really alone, that you are not really lonely, that you are not really lonely.
By believing your lies, you are protecting yourself from these issues, you are protecting yourself from your own fears, you are protecting yourself from your own pain and loneliness, and you are keeping your sense of freedom alive. You are a liar, you have chosen to do this and it is a decision that has some serious consequences, both for you, and for your relationship.
In order to deal with the problems that you are creating in your marriage, you must be open, you must be vulnerable, you must be honest. The lies and the lies that you tell yourself must end. You must be able to express yourself, you must be able to be vulnerable, you must be able to express your feelings and experiences, your needs, your wants, your desires, your fears, your loneliness and your pain. You must be able to be honest with yourself, and then be open to the world.
It is possible to protect your marriage and it is possible to survive a relationship that has become abusive. It is possible to be happy in a marriage that is unhealthy, lonely, alone and lonely. It is possible to love a spouse and survive a marriage that is full of secrets, lies, abuse and deception, guilt, anxiety and depression, unhappiness, unhappiness and unhappiness.
Love can grow over time in unhealthy marriages. Love is an experience that is very difficult to fake, but it is possible. The truth is not always nice. Love is not always a bed of roses. Love is hard to find and difficult to maintain, but it is possible. Healing a relationship that is unhealthy is possible. It is possible to love a spouse and to overcome abuse and deception and unhappiness and unhappiness.
It is easy to believe lies and to create a lie for the sake of protecting yourself from pain and loneliness. It is easy to blame others for your misery. It is easy to lie to yourself. It is easy to tell yourself that this will all work out in the end, but it is not possible.
However, it is not possible to have a healthy and loving relationship, or to survive a relationship that has become abusive, even if it seems impossible. It is not possible to believe the worst and expect the best. It is not possible to believe that things will change. It is not possible to let yourself believe that your spouse is a monster, when the truth is, you are the monster!